Keep Moving Forward!
Yesterday our daughter hit her head on the ice hard enough that it warranted a trip to the emergency room to get a CT scan to make sure there wasn't any bleeding or bruising on the brain. As ER visits go, it was really exemplary, and I recommend that, in the event of an emergency, you go to SW Washington Medical Center if you have that option.
When I arrived, my car was valet parked, we were checked in within 5 minutes, and ushered to a room, where a nurse arrived within seconds to check vitals and make sure all the details of the incident were duly recorded. She also popped a dvd in to the player in the room to keep C entertained and relaxed. It happened to be, "Meet the Robinsons". If you haven't seen that particular movie, it involves a young orphan boy in search of a family. The boy is an avid inventor, but hasn't yet created an invention that works as designed. There ensues some time travel, and a few other interesting incidents. At one point, the boy comes face to face with himself as an adult and discovers the secret of his own successes in life: Keep Moving Forward!
When something is tried and doesn't work, or only works partially, it is challenging to not toss in the towel and just give up on the concept. In this case, the house combo poly didn't work out for one of the parties involved. Some of the factors had zero to do with anyone directly involved, things like employer choices. Some could have been seen more clearly in advance, and others couldn't have been anticipated. The bottom line for me is that poly isn't a failure, that the house combo wasn't a failure, but that parts of it didn't work for everyone involved.
This is still a good concept, and one that my future plans may include. S and I have other partners currently, and still identify strongly with polyamory as a concept and way of loving.
At this point, we want the dust to settle a bit, and are looking for a roommate or couple that we aren't personally involved with to share our home and help with some of the financial shifts following the loss of our other household member. If you live in the area, and might be interested in living with other poly people, please let me know, and I'll be happy to discuss the specifics.
Oh yes! The kiddo is doing fine this morning, and is off to the ice rink for the day. She's ready to keep moving forward as well.